(Published February 9, 2015)
For about 27 months now, I’ve been spilling my guts on this blog about everything I know on the subject of real estate investing.
Most of it pertains to the investing niches I enjoy the most (i.e. – land investing, rental properties, lead generation, website building, direct mail strategies and the like), but I haven’t spent much time talking about myself.
Maybe it’s because I’ve long assumed most people don’t care, or maybe it’s because I’ve wanted to protect my privacy… but it just occurred to me that most of my readers have no idea who I really am, so I wanted to take a few minutes and shed some light on “Seth’s Story” with a small collection of random facts about me.
1. I’m 31 years old.
At this point in my life, I’ve experienced some notable things and seen a lot of what life has to offer. When I look at most of the things I’m involved with, I can finally say I’m not a total novice anymore.
At the same time, there are a lot of things in the world I still haven’t seen and I think this puts me in a unique position. In many ways, I can identify with both the young and the old, the experienced and the inexperienced, the confident and the humble.
For the most part, I like my life where it’s at and if I had to push the “pause button” at any point in time, it would probably be right about now.
2. Music is a big deal to me.
I don’t just enjoy listening to music, I enjoy playing it too. At different stages in my life, I’ve played the violin, guitar, I’ve been a singer and I just picked up the ukulele a couple weeks ago (it’s a pretty easy instrument to learn).
When I was in high school (before reality set in), I actually considered going pro as a guitarist. I even released a few self-produced albums of instrumental guitar music. I never had the natural gift for song writing, so most of my recordings were just covers of bands I liked. Either way, it was still a lot of fun.
Here’s a quick sample…
3. I’m pretty disciplined about physical exercise (but even so, I still kind of hate it).
When I was a sophomore in high school, I was really overweight. It was a big physical, mental and emotional burden for me. One day, I decided I’d had enough and decided I would just stop eating, cold turkey for one full week.
It was one of the hardest things I’d ever done, but once I got through it (and lost about 10 pounds in the process), I thought… why not keep going? About a month later (after severely restricting my diet and working my butt off in the weight room), I had lost about 40 pounds and some people didn’t even recognize me.
Was it a ridiculous stunt? Maybe… but I was able to prove to myself that if I wanted something bad enough, I could move mountains with my motivation and that was an important revelation for me.
4. I’m a hammock camping enthusiast.
I’ve always enjoyed rustic camping in the wilderness. I’ve camped out in all kinds of crazy places, but the sleeping accommodations were never that great. Luckily for me – I discovered hammock camping and it has completely changed the camping experience for me.
A good camping hammock (when sized right and paired with the right gear) is WAY more comfortable than any tent/pad/sleeping bag will ever be. They’re light-weight, far more comfortable, dryer, warmer and allow for better sleep than any tent ever will.
5. I’m NOT a person who oozes with confidence.
My level of self-confidence (or lack thereof) has always been an issue for me. Maybe it’s because I know what “arrogant” and “cocky” looks like and I really want to be different (or at least, that’s what I tell myself).
Whenever I’m facing big new challenges or hurdles in life, my natural tendency is to quickly conclude that “I can’t do it” or “I’m not good enough“. Some people find my humility endearing, but the truth is – it has held me back from a lot of things in life… in an unhealthy, self-sabotaging kind of way.
I’m not sure if I’ll ever be completely free of it, but as with any problem, the first step towards overcoming it is with a simple awareness that the problem exists (and at this point, I’m definitely aware of it). I think the trick is to surround yourself with people who will empower you rather than focusing on your limitations. I’ve found that the right influencers and encouragement can make a BIG difference in the long run.
6. When I was 16, I almost blinded myself with a paintball gun.
Quick Tip: If your paintball gun is ever jammed, don’t stare down into the chamber and dislodge the paintball while you still have pressurized CO2 hooked up to it.
Just trust me – it won’t go well for you.
7. My wife is the most financially responsible person I know.
I didn’t fully realize this when I married her, but my wife is extremely frugal with money (and as a result, she keeps our whole family in line).
She is a CPA by trade, so she understands the details behind the numbers. Ultimately, this is a very good thing (because the devil is in the details), but sometimes it feels like a drag when I can’t run out and recklessly buy whatever I want.
I have to tell you though… her frugality has worked wonders for our family. Whenever I hear other people complaining about their car payments or how hard it is living paycheck-to-paycheck, I am immediately reminded of how lucky I am to have a wife who helps me (sometimes forcibly) to live a financially responsible lifestyle. I wouldn’t say it’s fun or easy to live with this kind of discipline, but there are HUGE benefits that come with the package. Laying the groundwork takes real effort, but it also eliminates all kinds of unnecessary problems that don’t need to be there in the first place.
8. Some people still think my real estate business (including this blog) is a joke.
Ever since I started working for myself, there have always been people in my life who haven’t taken me seriously. To this day, whenever I talk about land investing or blogging – a lot of people just don’t get it.
I’m not sure what these people need to see in order to take me seriously – but fortunately, their opinions are the least of my concerns. What I care about is working on something worthwhile and knowing that I’m changing lives (including my own) in the process.
Don’t get me wrong… it’s awesome when people show their support and offer encouragement (it really means a lot to me), but if this kind of validation was required in order for me to take the next step, I never would have gotten anywhere with my endeavors.
9. I don’t enjoy reading…
It may strike some people as odd that someone like myself (who spends hours every week writing for various blogs) doesn’t enjoy reading, but there’s an important distinction to make here:
I don’t enjoy reading when I’m not interested in the subject matter.
My life was greatly enriched by both of the colleges I attended for graduate and undergraduate studies… but let me tell you, getting through 6+ years of college with ENDLESS reading about subjects I would never specialize in was torturous at times.
Sitting down for hours on end and reading just for the heck of it is something I almost never do. Unless it’s a book like this, or some other subject I legitimately want to learn more about, reading is NOT something I do for fun.
As a source of media, I’ve found that audiobooks, podcasts and videos are much more enjoyable for me (probably because I can multi-task and get other things done while I’m absorbing the content – which helps keep me sane).
10. I’m a natural introvert, but I know how to turn on the “Outgoing Seth” when I need to.
I’ve always been a relatively quiet person in social settings, but I know how to turn on the “Outgoing Seth” when the time calls for it. On a scale of 1 to 10 on the introvert/extrovert scale (1 = extreme introvert, 10 = extreme extrovert), I’m probably somewhere around a 3.5.
I don’t usually vocalize my thoughts to the world unless I’m really comfortable with the people around me (and in those cases, it can be hard for me to shut up). Sometimes this works against me but more often than not, I’m perfectly content with being a person who carefully thinks through their words before speaking. If I said whatever was on my mind, I’d probably look really stupid and offend a lot of people.
I’ve learned that introversion can be an asset in some settings and a liability in others. While I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a quiet person, I do think it’s important for introverted people to find their voice and learn how to speak up when the time calls for it.
Over the past decade, I’ve gotten more comfortable with this by taking some Dale Carnegie classes and being a member of Toastmasters. While these outlets aren’t intended solely for the purpose of helping introverts come out of their shell, I’ve found that both were helpful in doing this for me.
11. Academics have never been my forté.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always struggled in school. From about 3rd grade up through my college years – I constantly felt like one of the dumbest kids in every class I took.
In retrospect, I don’t think this was actually true, it’s just how I perceived myself (and the fact that I attended one of the most academically rigorous colleges in my state probably didn’t help).
The weird thing is… when I was in in early 20’s, I took an IQ test and scored a 133 (not far off from ‘genius’ territory), but for some reason, this has rarely revealed itself in the form of good grades in a classroom setting.
Perhaps the academic world isn’t the only way to get a clear picture of a person’s intelligence?
12. I am right-leaning politically, but I generally hate politics altogether.
I seem to be one of the few people I know who can identify with BOTH liberals and conservatives on a number of issues.
I certainly have my opinions on many things, but I almost never think someone is “the devil” just because they think differently than I do. Even when I disagree with someone, I can almost always understand why they think the way they do (and I don’t think they’re crazy for their viewpoints).
Honestly though… after years of listening to some of the blatant ignorance from both the liberals and conservatives in my life, I’ve grown to despise political debates altogether. I don’t think any issue is one-sided and it really bothers me when the media plays off people’s emotions by turning everything into a polarized fight.
I’ve found that most political issues are vastly complicated and have many different facets to consider. Whenever I hear someone giving an over-simplified answer to a problem that is anything-but-simple, I can’t help but roll my eyes. The world can become a dangerous place when people stop thinking critically.
13. I really, truly want to help real estate investors succeed.
If you’ve ever tried your hand at blogging, you know that it can be a pretty thankless pursuit (especially in the beginning). There is only one reason why this blog has survived as long as it has – it’s because I really care about real estate investors.
I remember what it was like when I first got started. I remember how many questions I had and how much time, effort and energy it took me to figure out what I was doing. It took forever, and it wasn’t easy!
From the very beginning, my goal with this blog was to create the resource that I needed in the beginning (because at the time, there was nothing out there quite like this). It has been amazing to hear the feedback from readers as I’ve been working on this thing – because it has shown me that maybe, just maybe, I’m actually making a difference.
14. My brain likes to remember a lot of pointless facts and details, while forgetting the stuff that’s actually important.
It drives my wife crazy (and I don’t blame her) that I’m someone who can forget something almost immediately after I’ve heard it.
The good news is, I’ve learned to live pretty successfully with this admitted mental deficiency of mine. I use the “Reminders” and “Calendar” apps on my iPhone religiously, because my brain just can’t retain all of the little things I need to do unless someone (or something) is reminding me about it.
I’ve also learned the importance of doing things immediately. The sooner I can get a thing done, the sooner I can allow myself to forget about it.
15. I get easily annoyed by people.
Not all people, but certain people – and I think it gets worse and worse the busier I get.
When I was younger, I was naive enough to think I could get along with anyone. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve been disappointed to learn that some people are like oil and water, they just aren’t going to mix.
I think we all meet certain people in life we simply cannot get along with. Have you ever known someone like that? If you’re normal on any level, I think you probably know what I’m talking about.
It’s a sad reality and I wish humans didn’t have to work this way, but it doesn’t necessarily mean people have to constantly be at war with each other… it simply means that someone’s gotta change, or someone’s gotta go.
16. My wife and I had our first baby girl this past year.
For the longest time, I wasn’t sure whether I wanted kids, whether I was ready to “give up my freedom” or whether I’d even be a good father. It’s something my wife and I both deliberated about for years… but within moments of her birth, it quickly became evident that our daughter was hands down, the best thing we had ever done.
At the time of this writing, our baby Nora is only 6 months old and she has already provided far more fun and entertainment than we ever thought possible from an infant. The sheer amount of joy and love she has brought into our lives is almost unbelievable (I used to hear people say this before I had my own child, but now I finally understand it).
I was never much of a “baby person” in my 20’s. I was pretty uncomfortable holding other people’s babies and I almost never felt more awkward than when I had to entertain a toddler for even 30 seconds.
The funny thing is – when Nora was born, everything clicked into place almost instantly. When it was MY child, everything was different. I suddenly had these uncanny parenting abilities I never knew were in me. To my surprise, I became an overnight expert, with everything I needed to handle the challenges that came about. It’s been amazing!
17. I’m a Christian and I’m serious about my faith, but I’ve never been big into proselytizing.
I’ve been extremely fortunate to grow up in a Christian home, going to Christian schools and attending a Christian church. I’ll always be thankful for the opportunities I’ve had to know my creator, who cared enough to save me from myself. It means everything.
One of the few unfortunate things about growing up around so much Christian culture is that I’ve seen a lot of examples of Christians who are doing it wrong (and I’m guessing you’ve probably seen it too).
I think a lot of the world’s non-Christian population sees a great deal of hypocrisy in people who call themselves “Christ-followers” – and it’s quite tragic. Even more unfortunate is that I think they’re right. I see the hypocrisy too… even in myself.
I’ve actually struggled with this a lot. I don’t ever want to be seen as that “clueless Christian guy” who is full of advice for the world, but has no real compassion or understanding for what the world is going through.
The world doesn’t need another Christian pointing their finger, but it desperately needs some better examples of what Christ-like behavior actually looks like (honestly, I don’t think some people have ever seen it exhibited well). My goal is NOT to shout at anyone with a megaphone about what I believe and what they need to do. My goal is to live the best life I can, and hope that someone will see a difference in my behavior and understand where it’s coming from.
18. My life is busier than it should be.
As much as I talk about the importance of time management, it’s still something I wrestle with a lot. I think it’s because I’ve got this “achiever” mentality and no matter what, I’ll always find something to fill up my time with. I find a lot of meaning and motivation in my work and I care about doing things that make a difference. I get frustrated when my work feels pointless, so when monotony sets in, I keep adding things to my plate until I feel like I’m doing something significant again.
As much as I try to automate and streamline everything I do, I still find it difficult to pay adequate attention to everything that’s going on around me. I’m honestly not sure what the solution is, but I’m hoping I’ll figure it out soon.
19. No matter how much money I make, I still worry about not having enough.
Maybe it’s greed, maybe it’s a lack of faith, maybe I just need a lesson in contentment. Whatever the problem is, I’ve always found it interesting that even though much of the world lives on less than a dollar a day, I still have trouble living on hundreds of times more than that.
I’m not proud of this. I’m sharing it because I think many of us struggle with it. After all – why are any of us investing in real estate if we have enough as it is?
20. My success as a real estate investor has been modest at best.
Some people think of me as this “amazing success story” and I’ll admit, I’ve had my share of grand slams as a real estate investor… but there are TONS of unsung heroes (some of whom have learned their exact investing strategy from this blog) who have achieved just as much (if not more) success as I have.
I know how to make a ton of money in real estate and I genuinely enjoy writing about it and sharing these ideas with the world, but at the end of the day, knowing is not the same as doing. It’s the doers who will actually take home the bacon.
One of the critical lessons I want people to take away from this website is that learning is important, but action is critical. The right knowledge really is a legitimate prerequisite to your success, but it’s also important to remember that knowledge is just a multiple of action. In other words – if you have a million dollar idea and you multiply it by a value of zero – do you know what you’ll have in the end? ZERO.
As you consume every piece of content on this website, I want you to constantly ask yourself – “What could I accomplish if I actually put this into practice?” The answers may surprise you.